Sunday, May 11, 2008

Roots and Wings


This Mother’s Day is especially poignant for me, as I face my youngest child’s departure from home. My older children have already flown the nest, and now it is Big Guy’s turn to leave. Of course I will forever be my children’s mother, but I still feel a sense of loss.

I take a mental evaluation of nearly three decades of parenting. Did I teach my children the right things? Did I nurture them well?

A cross-stitch sampler hanging in my bedroom says:

There are only two lasting things we can give our children...one is roots, the other is wings.

It was instinctive for me, as with most mothers, to fiercely protect my children from physical harm and emotional insult, to strive to provide them with both the material and also the intangible necessities that make life enjoyable and satisfying, to instill in them a firm foundation of love and faith. I hope my efforts helped them develop not only roots and wings, but also the desire and confidence to use both of these gifts effectively and successfully with their own families.

To my little birds, M, L, D, and E: I think of you this Mother’s Day, and cherish each of you. It is an honor and a privilege to be your mother.


Comments:
I suppose it is normal to feel a sense of loss when you send off your last child, but my sense of gratitude and appreciation for the fine job you did as my mother will be eternal. You will always have my admiration and utmost respect. I owe much of the success I have experienced in life to the firm foundation you gave me in our home. Indeed, it is an honor to be your son.
 
Wise thoughts for raising children.
Thank you for sharing them.
 
Ah... sweet! Yeah, I had those thoughts after my oldest left. Did I do everything I needed to? Did I teach everything she'd need to know? But then I realize the relationship has not ended just because she no longer shares the same address...
 
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